BSAFs

This blog is a little over due but its under way.

When we meet a new person, do we automatically make them our best friend? Do we give them all of our trust? Do we give them the same treatment that we do our friends that we've known for years?

Ladies, when we meet a guy, don't we expect him to work for us? To prove to us that he deserves our trust and time and body?

So then why is it, ladies, that we don't expect that we have to do the same?

Have we become too spoiled and/or lazy. Are we entitled to the role and title of the #1 just because we are women?

I've come to the realization that there is a serious case BSAF going around. Especially with the black female community. Whats BSAF? BullShittin Ass Female.

How do you know if you are a BSAF?

Some signs are simple to see. If you feel that he has to be the one to always call you. If you refuse to do a little extra for the guy you like. If you're too worried about looking "too open". If these apply to you, you are a BSAF.

The Cure for BSAF syndrome? Man up!

Its okay to call first or text him. Do little extra things that he'd like. Wifey's spot is earned. She works for it. Do not go into a situation where you meeet a guy and automatically assume you are and will be his #1 right away without him knowing much about you or how he can benefit from having you in his life. We think the same way about guys right? A man isn't given the #1 spot as soon as he meets us. We put him to the test in some ways. We have expectations. So why is it that we do not expect to meet those expectations that men have of us? Then we get mad when the guys become frustrated and lose interest.

You don't have to bend over backwards. And if you see that you are the only one making an effort, then its time to re-evaluate the situation. However if you just tae take take, then what do you expect when he shows that he has nomore to give?

Just some food for thought. I totally half assed this post. I'm sorry. But Sara has been pushing for it since the topic came up lol. But I'm serious about the message. The 1st step to BSAF recovery is admiting to it. My name is Noelle and I am a BSAF =)

~Noelle