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Hey guys! I'm on my third blog already! Wooooo! So lets get started:

I'd like to begin tonight with a little something that a friend of mine (Jalisha Hunte aka Moochie) posted on Facebook. Its a list of qualities that she wants to find in a guy. When I read this I just had to ask if I could share this with my readers. But before I post it, I'll give a little history about Moochie and I and how we met.

She and I are both fresh(wo)men at our school. We didn't always start out as friends though. In fact, for about a month or two, she and I were seeing the same guy at the same time. As I like to say, "No bueno, dude." But instead of getting angry at the guy, who was knowingly toying with our affections, I became upset at her. I must admit that I continued to allow this guy to lead me on, even though I knew I deserved better than that. Honestly, he and I were still affectionate with eachother up until a little after my winter break had begun. As for the two of them, I don't know. However she and I became friends. She's a very sweet girl and I have grown to love her. She is also an aspiring writer and from this post, a bit of a romantic as well; never mind the tattoo of the word "love" on her middle finger, which I will let you think about the meaning. So here is what she posted:

"I want a guy that talk 2 me late at nite..till we both fell asleep on the phone...I want him to miss me...& neva go a day without telling me he loves me...When he hugs me..he closes his eyes and squeezes me...When we kiss he holds my face gently...I want to fall asleep on his chest...I want him 2 watch me sleep then watch me up by kissing my forehead...I want him to take me to the city...N HE PAYS!!!& when were out there I want him 2 hold my hand like a prize that no one else could have...with pride...I want him 2 buy me things cuz when he saw it he though of me..n I'll do the same...I want to tell him everything...I want him 2 tell me everything...I neva want him to lie to me...& I neva wanna lie to him...I support him..he supports me...I got his back..& he has mines...I'd rather him long for me..then 2 need me...I'd rather make love ...then 2 just have sex with me...I'd rather him cherish ...then 2 just claim me...I'd rather never love again..then 2 lose him..I want him to say "im sorry" when he does anything wrong...I want him to say "thank you" when he knows that something was done just for him...I want to cook for him...I want to watch a movie at nite...I want to brush his hair and give him backrubs when his tired...I would make him feel like his is the most blessed man on earth...Because 2 me.... He is...I want us 2 be happy...2 be free 2 Dance... Free 2 Cry... Free 2 sing...2 be us.. I want us 2 love each other... He sees his Kids in My Eyes...He sees The Joy of his life...& know he has everlasting happiness in his future...thats it!!!! i hope u understand ladies!! n fellows take notes!!"

Like I said before, when I read this I HAD to ask if I could share it with everyone. I think that every girl looks for most of these qualities. However, why is it that we, both men and women, allow ourselves to settle?

Many people feel that the perfect guy or girl is impossible to find. Therefore, we settle for the next best thing. Is it really so bad to want the best when it comes to matters of the heart? If I'm giving my 100%, why do I have to settle for less than that? I understand that no one is actually perfect, but is it an excuse to get away with doing things that you know are wrong?

The point is to not fall in love with someone who is perfect. The point is to fall in love with someone perfect for YOU. Your 100% may not be the same as mine, however there is someone out there that is willing to give 99.9% at the very LEAST. Everyone has flaws but its about trying to better those flaws for the one you love and expecting the same in return.

To say that a person expects too much from their other half is saying that someone must take what is given to them and just deal with it. I'm sorry, but I believe that is totally unfair on both ends. I want to be the best person that I can be. And if the love of my life can provide it for me, then I will appriciate it, just as I hope he will for me.

So, in conclusion, my dear Moochie, you deserve this guy and he will have to work to deserve you as well. And if a certain someone is too blind to see what he had, don't sweat it because whats meant to be will be. =) <3

~Noelle