Its a Beautiful Life

Today is a gorgeous day! The sun is shinning and I'm in a pretty good mood.

My weekend was definatly well needed. I ended up taking a VERY last minute trip to New York for my cousin's babyshower. I didn't even know I was going until around 12:00 midnight on Friday night. I surprised everyone when I arrived at my aunt's house at 3:00 AM.

The baby shower was a lot of fun. There was laughs, food, music and family. Just the things I had been missing for sometime. I know I had just began school that week but I was beginning to feel a certain way about my friends here. I just felt out of the loop. But I never feel that way when I'm home.

My mom was so happy to see me. Our relationship has gotten a lot better since I went away to school. She and I have our rocky moments like every mother and daughter do. But I'm glad now that we laugh and talk more than give eachother the cold sholder.

We were talking about her relationship with this guy she met over the summer. He's related to my little's brother's best friend's mother. He is very different from the men my mother usually dated. My mother never really dated much, actually. There was her first husband who passed away(loooong story for another blog), my father whom she never married but was and is still madly in love with but he was in another situation(again another long story for another day) and finally my step father, father of my little brother, whom she just seperated from(yet another long story). Needless to say my mother and love aren't the best of friends. Which is sad beause she desperatly needs it. Not to say that there is no love in her life at all. She has me, my brother, my grandparents and the rest of our family. But when we were talking, I could see the lonliness in her eyes when she expressed to me that soon she'd be alone.

I'm off in college and before you know it, my littl ebrother won't be attached at her hip any more. She's prayed for a man in her life and now I'm praying for her to find one too. Someone that deserves her. She does so much. And she has been through more than most people will ever experience. She IS superwoman. So its time that my mother finds a superman. Thats where this new guy comes in.

Like I mentioned before, he is not the type my mother is used to. To put it simply, mom usually wears the pants in the relationships. She's a strong dominant woman and the men in her life could not handle it most times. This guy, however, is not the type to walk all over. He is a challenge for my mother. She's learning now how to just let him take the lead sometimes and be the man. When they both butt heads, its hilarious because they are both stubborn and refuse to be the first to apologize.

But this weekend, mom swallowed her pride an called him after a few months of silence between the two of them. She was waiting on him to call her back when I left Sunday afternoon. I hope he did. I kinda wanna meet this guy. I never got a chance to because I was never home in the summer when they had their dates. So, people, lets keep our fingers crossed for my mom.

My mom's guy has caused me to think a little bit about something. Men and their balls. Haha. I don't literally mean Their balls but the idea of being a tough guy and all. Why can't men handle it when women show that their balls might be a little bigger?

I'm old fashioned so I believe that a man should od what a man has to do and that somethings, even though a woman is very capable of doing, a man should just be in charge of. If you have a man, why not let him be one? The whole independant woman revolution has began to get a little wacky if you ask me. Its more than wonderful if you are capable of taking care of youself. In fact I believe that everyone, man or woman, has to know how to do things for themselves and must not depend on anyone for anything. But you wont find me picking up the check on a date just because I can. Not unless I want the man to feel as though he is not important.

I think that responsiblities should be 50/50. I have no problem cooking for my future husband at the end of the day as long as he has been out working or doing something to ean it. He should have no problem doing a little house work either. We should both be able to take care of eachother. I scratch your back if you scratch mine type of thing.

These thoughts apply to everything in a romantic relationship. Money, house work and even sex. I can't tell you how many times a guy has said to me that he enjoys recieving oral but will refuse to give it. HA! Personally I am a HUGE fan of oral. I'd rather get head than have actual sex. I also have no problem giving. Its sort of an ego boaster actually when you see that you have done a good job. BUT I will NOT be the only one giving and never recieving, thats for sure!

So guys, this whole "I love her 'cause she got her own" thing is cool. You should want a woman that can take care of herself. But remember that just because she is well off and can do for herself, that is not an excuse for you to slack off and not try to play your part as a man in the relationship.

Ladies, keep doing what you have to and don't rely on anyone to get where you want and need to be, but it is ok to let a guy do things for you. Holding doors, picking up the tab, etc. Expect these things because once we start acting like we accept that chivarly is dead, then it really is. Also, some men might not show it but they want to do things for us. And when we take that away from them, they feel like less of a man. Don't abuse it but appreciate it when it's done for you. And to anyone that I might be interested in and that is interested in me, know that chivalry is alive and well in my book so get used to being a gentleman.

Anywoooo....all this water I've been drinking for my diet has got my bladder doing backflips. So on that note I will leave you all.

~Noelle