Men Cry in the Dark

Hellooooo hellooooo hellooooo! I'm back. And this time with something to talk about. So lets begin.

Sensetive men.

Its not a bad thing for a man to express his feelings. Men don't always have to have the macho facade. However, when and where do we draw the line at when a man is TOO sensetive?

I once heard on Sex and the City, "Are men just women with balls?" Good question. Yes everyone has feelings and yes they can be hurt. However, we all know that there are certain stereotypes that come with being a woman and being "overly emotional" and men showing no emotion at all. But what about the men that do show emotions?

I think if something is on anyone's sholders, whether its a man or woman, he or she should find a way to let it out. Talk to someone, write it out, do something physical. It doesn't matter. Sometimes when I'm feeling sad and I just want to cry, I watch a sad movie (usually The Notebook, Troy or A Little Princess) and I sit there and cry until I feel better. But what would we say if a man did that? Would we call him "soft"? I think if the load is that heavy, then crying helps.

In other cases there are those men who are the sensetive ones is relationships. One's that take every little thing you do as a shot at his ego. These men are sensetive and immature.

Not to put anyone on blast but this is my blog and if you read it and don't like it, then don't read it anymore.

Example: Chance.

Chance and I go to the same school. He and I have been talking on and off since July. Theres an attraction there however the most we've ever done is kiss. He's had two girlfriends since we've been to school. However, in July, he used to claim all the time that he wasn't going to be in any relationships until about Junior year. I knew this was all bullshit from the beginning but I humored him and sort of gave him the benefit of the doubt. But, just as I suspected, he ended up dating a girl about 3 weeks into the school year.

He and I remained friends. He sees me as one of the guys (which is nothing new to me because thats how I am with most guys). Then one day, he confessed to me that he likes me as more than a friend. He had broken up with his 1st girlfriend and was single again. So we decided to see where things would go and just be casual about everything. Soon he started to ask me to hang out with him and his friends. I declined most of the time because he and his friends would smoke and get high and I am just not into those things. I guess I hurt his feelings because he ended up deleting my phone number and hardly speaking to me.

When I finally did speak to him, we reconciled and things went back to before. We were really cool and then again he had a sort of temper tantrum. He was quick to say that he has given up on me because I keep turning him down when he brought up sex. That should have been the first sign to leave him alone because, to me, it sounded as though our friendship was just a ploy for him to get into my pants. Yes, having sex with him crossed my mind but I believe that if its going to happen, it will on its own. If its constantly asked for then its forced and sleezy. He apologized and said that his intentions were not to have sex then ditch me but he felt that he
was doing to much" when it came to me.

After that we were fine for a little while, however I started to see him in my dorm with another girl. I wasn't going to say anything to him about it because it wasn't my place. I was the one that said I want a friendship and that he can do as he pleases because he is not my boyfriend or anything. However, one night after he left the dorms, he messaged me to come to his house. I replied to him saying "No because you were in my dorm with another girl earlier who u say is just your friend. You could have stopped on my floor to see me but you didn't. I'm not leaving campus to go to your house, unless you pay for a cab for me or drive me to and from. But I doubt that will happen" That was that. I didn't hear from him for about a week.

I found out last night that he deleted me from facebook. I had to laugh because I wondered what I did this time. So I messaged him and asked. His response was that he felt as though I played him when I made the statement about how I knew he wasn't going to drive me back or pay for my cab. Are you as confused as I am people? How did I play him? Can someone clarify please? I just stated the obvious. He didn't have the money at that time to spend on cab faire nor did he have a car. I wasn't insulting him, I was just stating fact. Maybe it was how he read it. The internet can allow for misinterpretation. You can't hear the tone of voice that the person is speaking in. Whatever the reason, I felt as though he was just being way too sensetive.

I've told him before that he acts like a girl sometimes. Thats when he has the right to feel played. But its the honest truth. Why do guys that claim to have the whole "I don't give a fxck" attitude, have the biggest attitudes of all when they deal with a girl that does not care either? I feel that if he and I actually had a type of relationship then I'd care more but we do not so why is it that he acts this way? All I asked for is that when he and I are together, its just "Noelle time". I never said that he had to do anything else but have respect for me, and be friends.

Guys who have this complex should really reevaluate themsleves. Do not act one way and do another. Its confusing. If we are confused, then how can we act around you. Men complain about women being sensetive but they have moments too where I say that they must be going through something. I hate the stereotype of a woman who is upset must be on her period, but I have to apply it to some guys at times because the mood swings are ridiculous.

Chance has a girlfriend now. I guess they got together during the time they were hanging out and I was of doing my own thing. He's still cool when he's not having his momens and I wish him the best. But to my guys out there, if you feel a certain way, say it but don't do things that your GIRLFRIEND would do back of the 6th GRADE. Maturity people.

~Noelle



So about an hour after i posted this blog, CHance read it. You can only guess his reaction. Yes. He's angry and said that he no longer likes me and we are not cool anymore because I put his name is it. Oh well. I told him nt to read it. But maybe I should stop putting names in here. I'll think about it. As for him, his loss that he wants to be a big baby. Ha!