LUV v.s. LOVE

Okay okay okay. I know. I've neglected you guys a bit. My apologies. Its not my fault. Its Twitter's fault. Yes, I have fallen into the fad. Its fun. It took some getting used to but now that I've gotten the hang of it, I can't seem to stop. Its blogging, only it's short hand. So technically I haven't NOT been blogging. I've just been blogging on another site. But there is really no excuse.





Moving right along.......





I'm finished with my fresh(wo)man year of college! *APPLAUSE* It feels good. Its a relief actually. But I'm still on campus for summer classes. I'm taking French. I wasn't supposed to take French, but it happened. Its only for four weeks so its not that bad. I can say I know Spanish and French now. Tri-lingual. That's sexy. Hahaha.





Nothing special has really happened recently. Chance is still upset and I haven't spoken to him since the last post. Tye and I have been playing phone tag for the last few days. He'd text me saying hey or wuts up. I'd text back saying the same. Then thats where the conversation would end. Its disappointing. I miss him a little bit =(. I miss the "cousins", too! I feel like I'm missing so much at home by being out here. I can't wait to be home with everyone for the summer. I have a date with my best friend since diapers (literally) to go shopping in SOHO and MAYBE get a tattoo. MAYBE! My mother told me I better not get one otherwise she will be quite upset with me. But I REALLY want one. We'll see if i'm brave enough to defy my mother's wishes.





In other news, my memorial day weekend was filled with Sex and the City DVD marathons at my cousin's apartment. I just love that show. And while I was watching, I came up with a topic to discuss in this post.





Topic: How quickly "love" dies.





Here is a little history on how I came up with the thought.





My ex from a VERY, and I mean VERY, short lived relationship and I have become friendly again. Not friendly in the sense that we are having sex or anything. Just that he and I are friends again. He was in a relationship recently. He and the girl were together for about six months. They were "in love". So much "in love" that the girl even went as far as to tattoo his name on her left ring finger. Yes. She got a tattoo of his name. I am so against tattoos that are of a person's name. ESPECIALLY if it the name of a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. I just do not have enough faith in anyone to permantly mark my body with their name. I don't care of you can get it removed now-a-days. If you say to yourself that its removeable, just in case, then you don't need to get it at all. But I'm gettin off track. My ex showed the picture of the tattoo off in his icon on AIM. When I inquired about it, he explained to me that he did not know that she was going to do it but that he was flattered by it. She told him that no matter what happened between the two of them, she'd never regret getting the tattoo.



That was about a month ago. A week ago or so, my ex reached out to me and explained to me that he had broken up with the girl. She had lied about something and he called it quits. Just like that. It was a rather stupid lie. Within a few days, the away messages that had once been filled with "I Love You"s and things of that nature were filled with "I'm over it" statements. And the tattoo? She got it altered. What happened to "I'll never regret it"? And as for my ex, he confessed to me a few days ago that he doesn't even want to talk about her and that he does not care about her at all. How quickly we say "I love you" and then within a day of breaking up, we act as if it wasn't a realtionship at all?



Maybe some people hide the hurt a little better than others but how well can a person hide the pain. Maybe its because what they say about young love is true. Who knows the exact reason. But everytime I turn around, a relationship that once meant so much is being thrown away. Or a new relationship looks more serious than ones that have been going for YEARS.

Do we rush into love? I think so. I think the IDEA of love is what we want and as soon as it's tested, we fail. he lie she told was VERY minor. I told him to think aboyt it but in reality, he just wanted out in my opinion. When you love someone, whatever they do, you're first instinct is to ask what YOU did to make them do it. Then you hate them. But then you want to forgive them and make it work. Prime example: my first, Drew.(See past post).

He cheated about 2 weeks after taking my virginity and if things had panned out the way I thought, he and I would have given it another try. Why? Because I love him and wanted to be with him so I told myself I could try again.

When you say I love you, you can't just take it back. Its not a gift you can return. Its supposed to mean something. But because we love the idea of love when its happy, we forget what the rest of love takes. We forget that the one we love is not going to always make you happy. There will be days when you want to chop their heads off. But that should not mean you love them any less. Love never dies. It changes. It grows. It morphs into something different. In some cases it changes from a romantic love into a deep friendship, and others a friendship into a passionate romantic feeling. Whatever it changes into, it will always be there. Sometimes you will be greatful for it. Others you might try to bury it inside of you because you are so upset with the one you love.

I just want the word LOVE to stop being confused with LUV. LUV is an extreme like or infatuation. Those things are fine. Thats where LOVE can stem from. The first step. But its never easy to get to LOVE. So if we want LOVE we have to make the effort. Think about what LOVE is for you the next time someone says it to you or u say it to someone else. Talk about it with your partner to be clear on what the both of you expect from LOVE. Its all about communication.

To those of us with real LOVES in our lives, congrats on having had it because many people are still looking for it. And to those with LUVS, I hope it grows how you want it to. But most importantly, everyone should LOVE themselves 1st and fore-most.

Anywhooo thats my thoughts on it. Feel free to share your opinions.

Oh and that you to IamScruffy for shouting me out on Twitter today. Very glad you enjoy the blog and anyone else with a twitter...FOLLOW MEEEE =D www.twitter.com/topnotch_noniie

GOODNITE WORLD!

~Noelle