Fed Up

Okay. Unless you have been living under a rock, you have heard about the Chris Brown and Rhianna incedent. If you have not, to put it simply, Chris whooped Rhianna's ass! Google the pictures of her face after what happened if you want to see for yourself, but take my word for it, he did damage!



No one knows what happened in that car with the two of them and what stated the fight. Some people say its because he cheated and others believe that had broken up already. I even heard a story about her giving Chris an STD from sleeping with Jay Z. Whatever actually happened, only chris and Rhianna know for sure. However what has me steamed are the reactions to what happened. ESpecially coming from women.



Turns out Chris has five years of probation after pleading guilty to the crime. He should feel BLESSED! He got a slap on the wrist! But some how people feel like thats not fair! If its not fair, its only because its such a light sentencing!



Let me make this one point very clear: I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR A MAN THAT THINKS HE IS RIGHT FOR HITTING A WOMAN. Unless she is on her Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction shxt, WALK THE FUCK AWAY! If you have to keep walking, then keep walking. If she is not a threat to your life or someone else's that you love and care about, you have no right to beat her the way Chris Brown beat Rhianna. NONE!



Men are built to beat ass. This is a scientific fact! So what if she is slapping you or putting her hands in your face or calling you names? Are you a little kid? Are you seriously going to beat her up because she called you a pussy and dared you to hit her? GROW UP! That shit is so first grade! And do NOT call it a reflex because what he did was NOT a reflex. A reflex is a slap or a shake. Not continuos blows to the face and then BITING HER (allegidly)! Thats more than a reflex. And even still, hitting her because of a reflex I still find unacceptable.

I feel really sorry for anyone who believes its okay for a man to hit a woman, whether you are a male or female. Especially if you are a woman. If you are a woman and u think its okay for a guy to hit another woman, it just shows me how highly you think of yourself. And a lot of women will be quick to say "she deserved it" but if it happened to them, all hell would break loose! If you feel its ok for him to hit another woman, then you obviously feel its okay of him to hit you.

Im not saying the women should beat on men and get away with it. Honestly people should just keep their hands to themselves and call it quits when all you do is argue and fight and never get along. But of coarse not everyone is as mature. However if you want to play the role as an adult, be one and be the bigger person and simply say "I'm done."

I'm really upset about this topic! I'm so disappointed and disgusted with people in my own family that sit there and truly believe its okay. But if I was to ever hit a man and he hit me back, I bet they'd all be quick to murder him. And at that point I'd honestly say well you thought it was ok for others to be hit but now that its me, he's wrong? Stick by your word then! DO NOT come rescue me! Because I DESERVED it! Am I right? And if it happened to them, I wouldn't want to hear any tears or plees for sympathy because "you must have done something to provoke it" and "sometimes bitches just need to get slapped".

I've lost a lot of respect for a lot of people when they can truly believe that treating someone that way is ok. Saying stupid things like "shit happenes". I just hope to God if I have a son, I can teach him how to be a real man and how to respect himself and others. And if i have a daughter that she too will respect herself and others. As for the people that have aready been lost to the ignorance i really feel sorry for you. I know damn well my mother raised me to have more self respect than to tolerate anyone doing that to me or for me to ever do it to anyone else.

A Splash of Color

helllooooo!

So if you havent noticed, I've added some color to the blog. I felt that I needed it. And i also changed the title. Yes, its true that a mojarity of my blog posts are about relationships and things of that nature, however from time to time I feel the need to vent about other things. And with a title like "Loves Advocate" I feel as though I was limiting myself. So "Noniie Xplainz It All" is in refernce to me talking about...well...it all. So I changed the name.

For all my readers that enjoy my posts about love, do not get discouraged. I will still post about love and all that ofen so there is still something to hold you here. I'm just simply expanding my audience. And I've decided that names will no longer be used in the blog with out permission or unless I have already mentioned you before (why hide it now if I have already exposed you?) Its that that I'm afraid of opinions. Not the case at all. I am just the type to avoid usless arguments as to why I said someone's name. (Honestly people only become offended by that when their names are attached to something they do not like, truth or not.)

But thats all for now. No topics to discuss yet today. I'm actually really hungry. I'm going to call my cousin and harrass her until she coms to save me from starvation.

~Noelle

Saftey First

Helloo, dearies!

It is such a gorgeous day outside and I have yet to do anything with myself. That is so tragic. I came home for a bit because my French professor took a week off from class. So I decided to come home and see my famiy and friends. However, in less than 24 hrs, I managaed to argue with my mother over an outfit I chose to wear and she managed to kill my mood instantly. =\ Such is life. I still went to the "cousins" though. We saw the movie Drag Me to Hell. That movie WAS HELL! I hated it! It was so ridiculous! Horror movies are the worst now. They just do not scare me anymore. Besides the movie though, I had a great night. Lots of laughs.

So I don't think I will be seeing Tye while I'm home =(. Sucks because I miss him. I did however see my ex I mentioned in the last post who just broke up with that silly tattoo girl. Hes just as tall, dark and handsome as I remember. And he smelled AMAZING! If there is one thing that I love on the opposite sex, its cologne! I will smell it in he air and have to look around to find out where it is coming from. A guy that smells good is huge TURN ON for me. And not every scent works for everbody but when i smell it on a guy it works for.....well..... ;) hahahaha. It just makes me want to be next to the guy and breathe it in. When I hugged my ex, I didn't want to let go. Okay I'm doing a lot right now but that just proves how much I love a man that smells DELICIOUS! And it doesn't have to be cologne either. It can be the fresh from the shower smell as well. Just good smells on a man drive me wild. And yesterday, my ex was looking and smelling GREAT! BUT I controled myself and acted completly normal. Hes interested in starting a sexual relationship with me again. Although the offer is tempting, I'm nots ure its a good idea.

Which brings me to my topic for today's post. When is sex ever safe??

I stole that line from Sex and the City. But Carrie brings up a good question. Especially for women. Is it ever possible to just have a sexual relationship with someone with absolutly NO feelings attached? In my honest opinion, I don't believe so. I believe that as wome, we are emotional. Thats just the way it is. Some of us hide or supress emotion better than others but we have them. And having sex with someone does not always mean that you have to have feelings for that person. It could stem form you having feelings for someone else and you are trying to fill a void or make the other person jealous. Whatever the reason, sex is never emotionally safe.

So is it safe that I have sex with a guy that I once dated and cared for, however short the relationship was, now that we are over? Am I emotionally capable of that. Is my heart on safety right now? I'm not sure it ever is.

Steph and I had talked about her idea of the perfect friends with benefits relationship. She said that she wants a guy that she can have sex with, still be friends, and have no romatic feelings attached. Sounds simple. Here is the catch. He cannot sleep with other girls. Everyone, including myself, except Sara and AnaKay, told her thats not how friends with benefits work. If he is committed to only having sex with you, he is not truly a friend with benefits. My frind with benefits has had sex with other girls after he and I started our sexual relationship. And to be totally hones, I would rather he did not. Because on some level I have started to like him a little more than as a friend (my point about women not being able to keep emotions out of sex). However I have no right to tell him he should not have sex wih anyone but me because he and I are not in a relationship. He is my friend. And just like when we were younger, and we had to learn that if a friend of yours played with someone else, it is ok because we can have multiple friends, its the same concept. My friend can haveother friends. It is my choice if I decide to not have other friends for myself and it is my own choice to be his friend or not.

Steph says that if feelngs grow later, than she will deal with it then. However, why deal with it later, when you can avoid it all together. Thats like the tattoo thing. Why get it if you know the possiblity of you having to alter it is there? Unless something is totally neccessary, don't do it just to cure a craving you want at that very minute. Why do we set ourselves up for possible failures? If we know its is not safe, why risk it? Sex is not the equivilant to love, s why do we treat it as such? Or better yet, why do we often treat it as if it is BETTER than love? Is this our way of protecting ourselves or hurting oursleves in the long run?

As for my ex and I having sex again, I'm still unsure. The sex between us was great but is it worth me risking being hurt? Hmm.

Anywho Thats my thoughts for today. I have to go monitor my little brother because he tried to trick me into thinking he was in the shower when all he did was sprinkle his face with water and spray cologne on his sweaty self. Not fooling me buddy!

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~Noelle