The Rules

Hello my beautiful readers and fellow bloggers!

well it is the first of April and I must say that my March was definatly amazing; at least every weekend was. My Spring break went well, too. I got to see Diamond and Stephie and my "cousins" haahaa. And I also got to see Tye =)).

Here is a short recap of the week:

Friday: Loooooong trip back to NY
Saturday: Mall with Shan, Basia, Visa, Akyaa, Wayne, and Tye the chilled with Shan at her house then hang with Tye.
Sunday: Visit my cousins and their new baby
Monday: Movies with Mommy to see The Last House on the Left
Tuesday: Visit the old stomping grounds (high school) with Diamond, and Stephie. Saw my second mommy and her new baby (she is the prettiest and most perfect baby ever!!!)
Wednesday: Hang at home and watch TV all day
Thursday: Hair done and another shopping spree at the mall
Friday: School field trip with my little brother to the circus, party with Shan, Basia, Britt, and Domo (at which we had so much fun and looked AMAZIIIING), sleepover at Britt's
Saturday: Hang at the dance school
Sunday: Back to school =\

That was my spring Break in anut shell but it was sooooo much fun! It really doesn't take much for me to enoy myself as long as I'm with the ones that I love and adore.

Tye and I speak quite often. Hes a real sweetie. I spoke to Basia about it and she was quite candid with me about her views on the situation. She brough up to me the fact that I have to be on my guard because of what happened between us so quickly. He may just see me as someone he can have sex ith and thats all. It made me think. How much respect could one guy have for a girl that did what I did? I spoke to him about it and he says his respect for me was not affected by it and he feels that whatever happened, happened. No more. No less. hat made me feel a bit better, however, I will be on my Ps and Qs (I never really understood that saying) and remember that he and I are just friends as of now. If it turns into more over time, then that will be cool. If not, thats fine too. I enjoy speaking to him. And when I did see him, nothing happened. Just a kiss. =)

Oh and as for Darryl....well...thats lowly dying. He's starting to show his age. Not to knock younger guys, but guys my age aren't even mature so the younger they get, the more childish they seem to be. This isn't all men but just enough that its an accepted generalization. So I don't speak to him as often as I usedto. He more than likely will be staying in the "just friends" file.

And today is the most random day eveeerrrrrr!!!!!!!!!! I heard about one fight and what seemed like the entire student body and I witnessed another fightat lunch that resulted in someone I know being handcuffed.

Anyway thats not what I want to talk about . I want to bring up a topic that bothers me a little bit. That is the "rule" about friends and dating a friends ex.

The rule states that "A guy or girl that a friend has dated is forever off limits to another friend for dating purposes and sometimes any communication at all."

Well my opinion of this rule is this: FUCK IIIIIT! Seriously. I think its a stupid rule. I believe that if you broke up with the person, you no longer have a claim on them. There is no longer a tie between you and that guy or girl. If you two are over, then it OVER!!!

I have friends who believe in this rule and take it to the highest level but honestly I feel that its totally unreasonable and selfish. What if the people that you are keeping apart are really meant to be? Who am I to tell someone not to date someone else? I may not like it but in reality, I have no real, justified place to tell another peron that I do not wan them to date someone that I have dated. Its ludicrous! It makes me look at you and think to myself that you are a confused individual and that you need a reality check because the sun, moon, stars and planets do NOT revolve around you. No matter what anyone told you or didn't tell you.

Now I can understand why it can be upsetting. But there are only certain circumstances where a valid argument can be presnted in this issue. If you and your ex still communicate as if there is still a romantic connection, then your friend should not be involved and if she is then both of you need to leave that guy alone becaus ehe is a jerk. If you and the guy had SERIOUS and I mean SERIOUS history. History to me is a relationship of a year and above. A few months does not mean enough to me. If your friend knows that you still have feelings for this guy, then your friend should consider that. If she feels that she still wants to see your ex guy, then that is her choice and your feelings maybe hurt but in life, not everyone will cater to your feelings. If thats the kind of friend that you need then find friends like that.

Everyone has or will have an ex that you don't want to be with anyone else but you, especially if its your friend. I have a guy like that in my life. If one of my friends were to date him, I think after I cried my eyes out for a few hours, I'd yell obscenities at the both of them and I'd be hurt. Eventually I may get over it because of the kind of person I am. I'd accept it because it is not the end of the world.

Theat is my honest opion on this topic. Let me know what you guys think. What are your views on friends and an ex rule.

Anywhooo I have to call Stephie and update her on the happenings of the day and the gossip I've heard. Yes, I gossip. Sue me. hahahaaa.

Toodles!!!

~Noelle